A few years ago, I bought my horse Angel. I was SO excited to be able to get back into horses- which was my passion growing up and into my early twenties. BR Angelina Gold was my “dream horse”- a golden palomino Arabian cross, who through a strange twist of fate ended up in my life. I was overjoyed when she arrived, and here are some of the things people said to me: “Why didn’t you get a Quarter Horse?” (Because I wanted an Arabian) “Well, she’s small, isn’t she?” (Well, she’s an Arabian, so yeah) “Why did you buy an Arabian? They’re crazy!” (Because I love them, and they’re my favorite) and “Why didn’t you buy a Friesian?” (Maybe because I don’t have an extra 45 grand to drop on a horse? Hm….)
My point is, having Angel come into my life was such a joyful moment for me, and when I shared my news with others, I got a lot of negative feedback and comments from friends. FRIENDS! And I never even asked for anyone’s opinion. I just wanted to share my happy news. Why is it that so few people can say, “Hey! Good for you. That’s awesome!” when someone shares something big? Why does there have to be any comments at all? Things like that can chip away at someone’s happiness. And it’s not just in this particular situation, it’s happened on almost every happy occasion in my life, there always has to be a few people to be snide or say something hurtful as if they almost want to dim that glow of happiness. Thankfully, I’ve learned to ignore it, but still… how strange is it that people tend to say things (unwittingly or not) that can put a dent in one’s excitement? Why can’t we just clap for the other person? Even if you don’t agree or if it’s not what you would choose to do with your life, what’s it to you?
Happiness is hard to come by. If anyone can find something in life that makes their heart swell and makes their life worth living- be it knitting or comic books or figure skating or collecting salt and pepper shakers- then you should be happy for them. Because guess what? It’s not about you. If we could all get that in our heads and realize not everyone is going to be just like you, think like you, live like you, believe like you, vote like you, etc… and actually be OK with those facts…perhaps the world would be a better place. If we can try to fix ourselves instead of “fixing” others, and concern ourselves with our own lives, maybe we could be better for it. And for anyone dealing with those negative people in your life- and we ALL have them- remember: people who aren’t nice to you is not a reflection of you, but them. Anyone who feels the need to rain on someone’s parade, no matter how small that parade may be, has some serious issues with themselves that they are struggling with. Don’t let them project their unhappiness onto you. Keep doing you and what you love and be who you are regardless of what others say. I know I said this in a prior blog, but the point remains… it’s YOUR life, so live it how YOU choose.
Basically, clap for others, and if you have something salty to say, keep it to yourself, unless your opinion is specifically asked for.
That’s all. Easy peasy. Now go forth and don’t be a jackwagon! You got this.